A guide to help you safely through this month, physically and emotionally
The holidays are here again. A time that’s supposed to be joyful, cosy and full of happiness. But for so many of us living with invisible illness the holiday season can feel heavy, lonely, overwhelming and painful. For me it often does, anyway.
Being chronically ill at Christmas is its own kind of hard, I find.
The expectations alone can be exhausting. From being alone in bed to showing up and having to be “festive” when your body is screaming for rest.
I often wished there was something gentle, real yet grounded that could hold me through this season when I struggled, instead of pushing myself into shame or toxic positivity for feeling miserable.
As there wasn’t, I figured I’d create it.
For You, With Invisible Illness
I wrote a short ebook for all of us who struggle through December, whether you’re:
• house- or bed-bound due to invisible illness
• able to attend one event but terrified of the crash
• navigating complicated family relationships
• dealing with pain, fatigue, migraines, anxiety, depression or the full invisible illness cocktail
• overwhelmed by holiday expectations
• or simply wanting to feel seen and supported this year
This guide is the support I wish I had all those years ago: validating, realistic, shame-free, and emotionally safe.
What’s Inside
The guide is divided into four easy sections, each one designed to help you move through this month with more confidence and ease:
• Support for those spending the holidays alone or in bed due to illness, whether physical or mental
• Scripts and pacing tools for attending events without crashing
• Gentle emotional support for the strange space between Christmas and New Year
• Ways to approach January without dread or comparisonitis
It’s 58 printer-friendly pages, designed with an off-white background that’s easier on the eyes and practical for screenshots, printing, or keeping on your phone as a quiet companion.
People have called my writing grounded, warm and relatable, and I hope this guide feels like that for you too.
A Safe Month For Those Of Us With Chronic Illness
If you feel lonely, overwhelmed or exhausted this month… this is for you.
No pressure to buy it at all, truly. If all you need today is this email, I’m glad you’re here and reading.
But if you want something to hold onto during the harder moments of December, this might help. It’s yours – or a gift for a spoonie friend – for €9,95.
And if you do read it, I’d genuinely love to hear which section speaks to you most.
Wishing you a soft and gentle holiday season.
Warmly,
Sandra Postma
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